Doing what you want when you want

When you're single, you get to do whatever you want, whenever you want....within the law, of course!  I hate asking for permission to do things and to me that's what a relationship feels like.  "Honey how do you feel about painting the living room walls green?"  "What do you think of throwing away all of the bathroom stuff and buying new stuff?"  Ugh....  Some people view these scenarios as discussing daily life with their spouse or partner but to me it reminds me of asking my parents permission to sleep over at a friend's house when I was growing up.

My sister's are always telling me things they want to change in their houses but that their husband's won't "let" them.  My customers are sometimes careful about how much money they spend because their wives won't "let" them spend too much.  I just want to shout at them "You're a grown up and work for a living so you can do these things if you want to!"

Some people have told me that it's not asking permission, that it's taking the other person's feelings about things into account before you do things.  I don't have time for that and that's probably why I am single!!

This tax year, I spent money on things I wanted, bills I had to pay that were late and on making my home environment better.  All without asking permission to do so!!  It felt pretty great!!

I like having the freedom to decorate how I want to, spend money the way I want to, and do whatever else I feel like doing.  The only people's feelings I take into consideration are my kids' and I don't ask their permission.... I tell them what I'm doing and unless they cry about it, I go ahead and do it!